[Written in response to this post by Diary of a Mom about her daughter Brooke agreeing to go somewhere new to eat breakfast.]
Many may not understand why what happened in the link is so amazing so I thought I'd teach you all about change and autism.
I have so little control over my environment. I can't tell when something will happen so I need a constant. Changes that I choose myself are not as scary, because you still have some control, but when there's an unexpected change in plans I feel upset and out of control and scared. If a change is necessary, people can minimize that by giving warning and giving me control over something else. But being understanding of why I'm upset, acknowledging the validity of my feelings, is big. Often they have been pushed aside as silly and that hurts. Being in control of the change that happens and not having it forced on you is important.